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2 weeks ago I received an award of Top Secretary for Omega Leo Clubs in the District 308-B2 for fiscal year 2009/2010. I am certainly not late in posting about it because what I’m about to say isn’t only about the award but more about after getting the award. The joy in getting such award isn’t because of the certificate, the pin badge or the trophy but it’s about the acknowledgement.

So very often we pour in effort, time and money into doing things but get no acknowledgement making the sacrifices that we have. Such award allowed me to feel acknowledged. I have always been thinking that the awards are just a minor plus but I getting it made me realize it gets me going. The award gives me what I needed all these while. That is acknowledgement.

This past 2 weeks I really felt more confidence in myself. I felt the motivation to keep climbing. I no longer feel that the top is a little bit out of my reach. In fact, I finally truly have the confidence that the ‘someone’ that will rise to the top could be me. I can be the someone.

Keep climbing till you reach the top of your mountain

Thoughts

Every individual have their different ways of views, thoughts and opinions on things. There’s this blog independentspeakers.wordpress.com where a few individual writers in that blog posts what each of them desire to express. Observe the diversity in the thinking and gain insights from the different views of people.

It is not possible for one individual to completely understand another but what we can do is to learn to see things from other views, to look into other people’s opinion on the different things around us. Though we may not always agree on these different views but maybe we can learn at least tolerate and accept that there are these different thinking.

When getting stuck at something whether it is a solution for a project you’re working on or some trouble with love life, try getting opinion from a totally unrelated person. That vast difference in the thinking might just be able to open up a way for you. Sometimes you don’t need a direct answer to your question. You often just need a fresh new point to get your mind moving again and that is where other’s thoughts can help you.

Open up your mind with diverse thoughts

Someone

What would you think when a big problem that isn’t related to you but affects you happens? I’ll tell you what most people will hope for. Most people will hope for “someone” to do something. Just imagine everyone in the world having the same idea of “someone” will end up doing something. Nothing will happen, ever.

It’s a topic I want to write for a very long time but didn’t have inspiration but recently I’m inspired by a blog post from a friend of mine, Clayton Tan Ju Chiae. In his blog post, http://www.juchiaetan.com/?p=215 he mentions a few selfless people coming of their cars to direct traffic when a massive jam was caused by faulty traffic lights and many impatient selfish drivers when most people are just sitting back in their car hoping for these selfless “someones” to appear.

At many times, we ourselves can be the “someone” that we’re hoping for. Stop thinking about what other people might do. When there’s a problem, step up and do something yourself. Next time when you encounter any problem, don’t think about what “someone” could do but instead think what you can do yourself.

Don’t hope for a someone, be the someone

Reason

Almost everything has a reason to happen. At many times however in our own actions we are supposed to know the reason but our conscious mind just isn’t sure. That’s in the case of our own actions but for other things like what is the reason some people are smarter, that we do not know of the reason. People then start coming up with their own reasoning according to their own desire. They can sound pretty logic as well. However, the most desirable question to be answered is the reason for our very existence. What is the reason that we live?

This question is a very subjective question. We always have the choice to choose to believe what is the reason we live. I can only say believe as I do not know if there could actually be a planned reason for us to live but I would like to believe not. Life has many things unsure and unknown. If you can justify your reasoning well, people will choose to believe it’s the truth including yourself.

Very often, we choose our own reason

Notify

Everyone makes mistakes and almost everyone would have a certain negative problem with what they do or the way they do things. These matters might not only cause trouble for themselves but might cause negative effects to other people as well. Often the problem would be the person doing it not noticing these problems themselves and think that nothing happens as there was no reaction or complaint made. As a result, these problems are repeated.

For the sake of everyone, make a sound. Stand up and state the matter if such problem arises. Stop whatever is happening with maybe an excuse me and start stating your case calmly. No harm will be done that way, instead you’ll be doing a favor to everyone with one problem fixed or on the verge of being fixed.

Notify people their problems, not everyone knows it's a problem

Selfish

Selfish is to be doing everything for the sake of oneself. How about helping people and then environment to make ourselves feel better? Doing good things and avoid the bad to prevent ourselves from feeling the pain of guilt? The outcome may be good for others but the main reason is for oneself. So is it still labeled as a selfish action or is it not?

I have always been clinging on to the theory of I’m doing good things for the sake of feeling better myself. I can take some displeasure myself for others as it might be worse seeing people I care for suffer and I don’t help. But up to that it’s still a point where I’m doing it for my own benefit. What if it’s not? Is it still worth it to sacrifice for others?

Is self or others more important?

Thank You

I would just like to extend a sincere gratitude to everyone who made my birthday a better day. Firstly to everyone who wished me happy birthday whether through IT means, SMS, call or face to face it means a lot getting the wishes as it signifies that you are not forgotten. Especially call from oversea, it means a lot. Thank you all for that.

Next I would like to thank the high school mate gang who went for the yam cha session where it’s the interval of another friend’s birthday and mine. It means a lot to have people spending that time with you. Thank you. I would also like to thank everyone who bought me present. Actually, I appreciate presents given from the heart most but nevertheless giving them show at least there’s a little bit of heart there. Thanks.

Finally I would like to thank the PJI gang who went and surprise me in my old school while I was playing badminton. I really appreciated it, you people really made my day :). I actually felt a little disappointed thinking you guys wouldn't come but you all did. Thank you.