Inspiration

We need inspiration to figure out what directions we can take on things that we do. When we're lost we often seek inspiration that can inspire us towards our next step. We search high and low, far and wide for something that can inspire us in any way but inspirations are all around us. Sometimes we try too hard to look and missed out on the little things around us. It's when we stop trying so hard to look for them, they appear right before us.

Inspiration can come from anywhere, anyone or anything. You may be surprised to know that our actions or words may have already become an inspiration to people in one way or another. You may feel that what you do means nothing to people and what you say is meaningless words but you never know what idea they could actually trigger. Also, sometimes you take a bold move you think might be selfish but it could actually become an inspiration since it's an uncommon move.

I have a dream to inspire people to succeed, to move towards the path they wish to. I'm nowhere near achieving that dream. I'm not even someone people would look up to in any way yet. I have no example significant enough to show yet, but I believe one day I could. But whatever it is, it's important that we don't inspire people wrongly. Believe in what you do because sometimes even if it doesn't yield too much results as it is, it may turn out to inspire others can create a strong effect long term.

Sometimes we look too hard for inspirations when they're actually just lying around us

Nice

You don't try to be nice if you're genuinely nice, ng nice to people is a commonly taught value. Everyone wants to be treated nice and that's why we want people to treat others nice so when it goes round back to us we may get treated nice. However, what would actually constitute to being nice? Always saying good things and complimenting people, is that being nice if it's not sincere comments? How about telling you some harsh truths that may hurt you a bit but for your good?

One makes you happy but keeps you in denial, one hits your mood down but is trying to put you on the right path. Many people live in denial and don't realize the first type of people are in that category, helping them stay in denial. More and more people avoid telling the truth in people's face, not because they fear they'd hurt that person but they fear it would cost them to be disliked by others.

Personally I've went through being hated for being too honestly harsh on people. I was a bit extreme at one point of time and I realized the truth blows on people could be softer. That's why I tried to phrase things in a less harsh way but I still have no hesitation saying the truth of things. What I think should be the right way things should be, the problems I see in people and the things I feel is not right I will just let it out and that I believe has made a number of people dislike me. For me it's a price worth paying.

Of course, there's also the kind of nice where we're always there to help people. It's true that sometimes people do take advantage of how nice we are and always use us for their convenience but does it really matter? In the first place, being nice to being is just because we feel obliged to assist people for their convenience so in the end even if their intention is to use us we're achieving our objective when we help them isn't it? That is to be genuinely nice, when we're not considering what we get from what we do but we're considering what good could our actions do to people.

Genuinely nice people don't try to be nice, they be genuine and they'll naturally be nice.

Care

Generally speaking, everyone have people that they care about and people who care about them. There could be minor exceptions here and there but that's not the point of discussion so I shall not talk about that. However, the people we care about and the people who care about us may not coincide with each other. That makes people forget that there are many who actually cares about them.

Many people and blinded with their focus on those that they care about. These people who they think they have sacrificed for and when they don't get the care in return from these people, they assume none cares about them. Think properly, is it really that none cares or are you closing off those who actually do care. It may not be the people who you want care most from but why not appreciate what is given to you instead of fretting on what's not.

Do we really care if people cares about us or do we care who actually cares about us? People who you don't really talk to anymore, would you assume they don't care? There are some that still cares but don't think you'd fancy talking to them. Think of people who once cared a lot about you, chances are they still do because someone who meant a lot in a part of your life will always remain special in a way.

Lastly, when you care about someone don't expect them to care for you in return. You don't care for them so they'd care for you, you care for them cause they mean something to you. Whether it's friendship, love, companion, family or anything, they mean something. To care is to be selfishly selfless. To fulfill your selfish desire of being selfless to these people. That's what care is, not to search for care in return. Eventually someone will care about you if you're doing good. Everyone has qualities that attract people in a way.

To care is to be selfishly selfless.

Unfair

Some people are born rich, some born poor, some die young, some die old. Basically our lives isn't a fair thing. Some lives die just after being born, heck some even die before being born into this world. It doesn't matter what we do in our life, if we're a good or bad person, the expiry we have in our life isn't affected by that. We have no control at all towards how we're born and how we die.

What we can control is in between, between the beginning and the end. Well technically we can control how we die if we take our own life but let us not take that circumstance into consideration. Let us focus back on the journey of life. The part where we can and is supposed to control. That's the only fair part of our lives, the part where we get to choose our path of life. The part that we have a choice.

Of course, the choice imposed upon us may not be the choice that we like. All the choices laid out before us may all be choices that we wish not to take, but we do have a choice and that's the privilege we all share. We just have to do what we can to make things better if things don't start out well for us. It may be easier for some and harder for another, that's life and life is unfair. We have just have to accept that it's that way.

So long as we live, we are still in control and we can try to improve our situation. The chances will only disappear if we choose to give up or if our time limit arrives. It's true that the time limit is unfair and the limit for us may be short but exactly because of that we should work the best of the time we have to make our life mean something. Those who have absurdly short expiry couldn't do anything and we couldn't do anything for them as well. Life is unfair that way, suck it up and move on. For those who have time, think of people who don't get this time privilege you get, appreciate and use it well.

Life is unfair, so just suck it up and make the best of yours

Idealistic

Many books, articles, speakers tells us to be idealistic and dare to dream. They tell us to chase after our dream instead of living a life doing what we don't like to do. It teaches us to have an idealistic thinking and believing things can happen if we try.

The society on the other hand teaches us to be realistic. Follow the rules set, study, get a job with good pay and you'll live a comfortable life. So should we be idealistic or realistic then? There's no definite answer to that. It's a choice you have to take.

Now, one thing you must understand is being idealistic is equivalent to taking a risk. There's no guarantee that your idealistic thinking can work out. Also, you have to be prepared for it not to turn out as you planned it would.

With so much uncertainty why do we want to take the idealistic path then? Because we get a chance to create the life that we want to. It's true that we might fail but if we don't try how can we be certain. Don't you think it's worth taking the chance if we might be able to live our life doing what we love?

Being idealistic is a risk we may want to take

Giving Up

In many cases of life tenacity is a good quality to have. To hold on to things and never to give up on them. It is a common teaching for us to hang on and not to give up on things that we want, to push on despite all obstacles that stand in our way. It isn't a wrong teaching as for most things persistence help us to get through.

However, there are things we couldn't blindly hang on to. In life we have to learn to let go and give up on certain things. There are a number of conditions that could make giving up the more reasonable choice to take. When the situations are so we should really consider to stop being stubborn and let it go.

One good example would be a relationship, whether you're chasing after, already together or have broken up. If things aren't meant to be there's really no point to force things to work out. After all, what we want is for who we love to be happy so if letting go would make them happier why not consider letting go. You can still be around and continue to love them but doesn't mean you need to dwell on wanting to be their lover.

Another factor is the time factor. The value of things changes in time and we move into a different phase through the progress of time. There may come a time where moving on to the next phase could get better results instead of retaining on the same platform chasing after the same target that couldn't be reached. Life is a variable, we need to adapt and not to be stubborn. It's good to have tenacity, but we should be open of exceptional cases.

Don't blindly hold on to what we should be daring to let go

Contact

In this era where technology is advanced. People are connected to one another through many social medias and chatting applications. It has become so easy to find your friends through technological means.

You can now just dial the number on your phone and there they are on the other side of the line. Group conversations are allowed in applications like whatsapp and there can even be conference call through skype. A more personal video call can also be made through skype and now it's free as long as you have internet connection.

However we tend to rely a lot on those connection now. We don't take so much effort to find all our friends to have a personal chat these days as we can do them online. The quality of our contact with friends have changed.

Is it a good thing though? It's very subjective here. It depends on how you use these means. The quality of personal contact should never be forgotten. You can do both but you can never over rely on technological contact. So use the technology wisely but don't over rely and it's all good

It's not the amount of contact with people that counts, it's the quality of it