Spark

There are a lot of feelings that can be developed towards a person. It could be pure good friends friendship feelings, family love feelings, lustful feelings, comfortable love feelings and there's that spark attraction feeling. The most unreliable of the feelings would be the last one, spark attraction feeling. However, these spark are one of the most apparent one.

This feeling I call spark stems from excitement, mystery and lack of knowledge on the other party. Familiarity will act as a filter to these feelings because you expect what is coming. It may filter off partially or fully depending on the intensity that is induced though. Of course there are still ways to create excitement but familiarity already put a whole big part of the cause away. However this feeling is like it's name, a spark. It glows brightly and hits hard but like a spark it is short lived and will die off as time passes.

Hearts beating fast, nervousness upon meeting this someone, mind goes blank whenever you're with them, highly excited when you see or hear from them, these are symptoms produced by the spark which is what would be more commonly known as affection. Very often this feeling is confused with what we would call love which is much more reliable and precious feeling. The feeling that produces almost completely opposite symptoms. Heart beats slower from being calm, relaxed, mind clear and awake, warm, comfortable and natural when together.

Some of these are feelings that some people say their best friends give. I'd tell them why can't your best friend be your life partner as well, it doesn't contradict. Some people would then comment they're too close, they lose all excitement against each other. How long do you think excitement will last and do you think you'll want that to last forever because being excited you definitely will never have a sense of security from them. Sure, it's all give and take but think and evaluate yourself which is more precious. Just because they'd still be here for you now doesn't mean it's safer to keep things as it is. There are risks worth taking.

Characterization

Many people have the tendency to characterize people according to their first impressions. First impressions however often fail to properly portray how a person really is. As the saying goes, don't judge a book by its cover, we shouldn't judge a person by what you see on the surface. Many often has a lot more going for them inside as you explore deeper about them.

However, when a person has been characterized by their first impression the vibe they give will be influenced greatly. For example, if a person has been characterized as a playful person it's very hard to shake off the thought of them being playful and put trust into that person's seriousness. The impression of not being stable and serious has already been established and there will always be that doubt when compared to one who gave a serious first impression.

However, it is true that you can actually read a person just based on their body language and the way they speak and that will probably be enough information to characterize a person. The drawback here is how many can actually read a person correctly. Think back yourself, how many times have you perceived someone different from how you later think they are. If you are amongst those who get it correct pretty much every time I guess it's not an issue but if you are not, maybe you want to consciously reprogram yourself not to characterize someone so quickly.