Happy Chinese New Year

Chinese New Year is around the corner now. I shall wish everyone to have a very happy time in this Chinese New Year season first. Many people goes back to hometown in this season while other who have no hometown to go back to stays and spend time with family at home. Now, that’s not what I want to talk about but the Chinese money minded mentality.

Do you realize the wishing people commonly use “gong xi fa cai/gong hei fatt choi” means wishing people wealth. Doesn’t it reflect how money minded Chinese people generally are? That’s why in recent years I’ve changed my wishing to Happy Chinese New Year or in mandarin/Cantonese “xin nian kuai le/san nin fai lok”.

Another thing is the very popular ang pow money and gambling in the season. Is this season all about money? No. Concentrate more on your family and your relatives. Spend time with them, foster a good relation. I hope everyone have a good time with their family and relatives. Happy Chinese New Year :)

CNY, it's family time

2012

It has been quite some time since I’ve last written here. I will start back writing from now on. I’ve always needed this blog to express thoughts that are hard for me to express verbally or through actions to other people. It also serves as the archive of the many thoughts that went through my mind. But most importantly it is where I can write down what I truly think.

Many things went on and 2011 hasn’t really been such a good year. I’ve made many mistakes and didn’t do a lot of things properly but I guess it’s a part of a learning process. I really want to thank people who helped me and all and very sorry to those who through my actions or words got trouble, inconvenience or hurt.

I never realized how much more still needed a push to come out within me. I also didn’t realize how much I could move myself without anyone pushing me. I’m still nothing at this moment but I will not remain so. 2012 resolution, I will grow and no longer be an unpolished gem but a fully processed one. No longer will I need to fake self-induced self confidence but to be truly confident with mile stones to look back at.

2012, it’s not the ending, it’s the beginning

Quiet

It’s been so many months since I’ve written anything here. I’ve been looking back into the past a lot lately. Thinking back how I was years before. Thinking back the days where I was still sitting in the corner, hiding from being chosen, looking out the window with thoughts flowing in mind, always being emo with things thought up by self, talk only to friends, always doubting myself and keeps everything to myself. Comparing back how much I’ve changed all these years.

True enough I’ve managed to improve drastically but the truth is deep inside those parts of me still remains. I have to constantly reassure myself to keep myself in track. That’s not that big of a problem as long as I can keep it. The thing is, this isn’t enough. I have to go further. I need to stop the doubt that makes me consider. The doubt that makes me delay my words and actions which in turn makes me miss a lot of chances.

You really think I like keeping quiet? Your really think I like to think so much before I speak? It’s my true base nature of doubting myself acting up (Other than the times where I wasn’t paying attention and I haven’t registered what I just heard). Just because I’m quiet I’m neglected, forgotten, unnoticed? Quite screwed up isn’t it? I really can’t stay remaining like this. I’ve always been giving advice and all. In this case I’m really stuck. Can someone teach me how?

Rational

To have a rational mind is commonly considered to be good. Logically thinking of reasons of things and consequences of actions before making judgments should be the commonly known as right thing to do. Is it really good to look at everything using logic and reasoning?

Human decisions commonly depend on logical and reasoning but also another factor which is feeling. To act purely dependent on feeling might bring about a lot of problems but would acting purely based on logic really be better? Feelings are based on what you desire. Things do not always happen the way it’s logically supposed to. Everything is unpredictable.

To go with the feeling might create some extraordinary results but at the same time things could go wrong and bad consequences could come about. To logically deduce things is good, but sometimes certain risks may prove to be good taken. Not everything has to be a puzzle, using algorithms, formulas or logical reasoning to solve.

Maybe I should stop look at everything like a puzzle

Importance

To different people, the degree of importance of a specific thing can differ completely. To some people, pride might be of utmost importance but to others pride might not even exist in their dictionary. Therefore, it is important identify what is of importance to yourself and also to those you care about.

To assume what you feel is important will be important to others is a common mistake that many people made. To imply that something is necessary just because you feel is necessary can turn out to cause trouble, dissatisfaction or obstructing the happiness of someone.

Instead if you actually find out what are the things that are considered important to those you care for, you might be able to put a smile on their face with simple actions. For example, some people might feel that appreciation is important and just a word of thank you would put a smile on their face. The same goes to yourself, know what is important to you and strive to get it.

Importance differ among individuals

Leader

What makes a leader a good leader? It is often quite a big question mark to many as to what must be done in order to become a good leader. The answer is very subjective actually. Different people take different approach to lead others. The paths they take can differ completely but what makes one better than another?

One basic role of a leader is to have people listen to orders given. The approach can differ from being their friend and have them want to help you, to be a dictator ruling in fear or even order by incentives where they listen to get reward. There’s no right or wrong as to what way is used. However, there is suitable and not suitable ways to do it and to different people and in different situations, the effectiveness of each way would differ.

Is just by being able to have people listen to the orders given make you a good leader? If not, what needs to be done? I’ve heard of good leaders are those who produce other good leaders. I’ve also heard of good leaders are those that have good followers. Are any of them the answer? It is subjective to the situation actually.

A leader is a person who guides people to work together and complete objectives. What people actually want to get by having a leader? Have you ever asked yourself what you want? It’s to achieve your aims and goals. You hope someone can guide you to the end of the road of your goals. A good leader helps people achieve them. There are those who need to be a leader to climb to the peak of their mountains, some merely wish to be able to contribute to the society in a way and maintaining a peaceful stable life and others have their own desire.

That is why not everyone needs to be made into a leader. However, a leader can’t possibly be there to guide everyone until they all reach all their goals. A more feasible way is to train them to be independent and mature enough to think of their own way getting there. When you're able to help everyone excel along their own paths, you become a great leader. There's no exception to your own goals as well. That's my idea of a good leader.

There's no one way to be a good leader

Unseen efforts

Are you the type of person who puts in a lot of effort into things or are you the type that talks more than you do? Are you acknowledged of your existence and actions or are you never really noticed no matter you have done? I used to pour in my utmost effort doing things trying to gain recognition but people don’t realize what I did. Many didn’t even realize of my existence.

I learned if the hard way but I realized it’s never about how much you have done but how much people know you did and of people to actually see it you have to make them realize you first. Action speaks louder than words? People won’t even know you’ve done anything if you don’t start speaking. Very commonly in school based clubs and uniformed unit people who are nowhere near being outspoken are often unseen no matter how actively they participate physically.

If you’re one of those unseen you have to cross the line of silence, if you’re one of those who have been seen and brought up on top take a look at how much people you’ve never heard about have done. Don’t waste the burning spirit up unrealized talents. When the fire dies off, it’ll all be wasted. I crossed the line myself but not everyone could. Help them, and the result may be magnificent.

Action speaks louder than words, only if they’re seen.