Idealistic

Many books, articles, speakers tells us to be idealistic and dare to dream. They tell us to chase after our dream instead of living a life doing what we don't like to do. It teaches us to have an idealistic thinking and believing things can happen if we try.

The society on the other hand teaches us to be realistic. Follow the rules set, study, get a job with good pay and you'll live a comfortable life. So should we be idealistic or realistic then? There's no definite answer to that. It's a choice you have to take.

Now, one thing you must understand is being idealistic is equivalent to taking a risk. There's no guarantee that your idealistic thinking can work out. Also, you have to be prepared for it not to turn out as you planned it would.

With so much uncertainty why do we want to take the idealistic path then? Because we get a chance to create the life that we want to. It's true that we might fail but if we don't try how can we be certain. Don't you think it's worth taking the chance if we might be able to live our life doing what we love?

Being idealistic is a risk we may want to take

Giving Up

In many cases of life tenacity is a good quality to have. To hold on to things and never to give up on them. It is a common teaching for us to hang on and not to give up on things that we want, to push on despite all obstacles that stand in our way. It isn't a wrong teaching as for most things persistence help us to get through.

However, there are things we couldn't blindly hang on to. In life we have to learn to let go and give up on certain things. There are a number of conditions that could make giving up the more reasonable choice to take. When the situations are so we should really consider to stop being stubborn and let it go.

One good example would be a relationship, whether you're chasing after, already together or have broken up. If things aren't meant to be there's really no point to force things to work out. After all, what we want is for who we love to be happy so if letting go would make them happier why not consider letting go. You can still be around and continue to love them but doesn't mean you need to dwell on wanting to be their lover.

Another factor is the time factor. The value of things changes in time and we move into a different phase through the progress of time. There may come a time where moving on to the next phase could get better results instead of retaining on the same platform chasing after the same target that couldn't be reached. Life is a variable, we need to adapt and not to be stubborn. It's good to have tenacity, but we should be open of exceptional cases.

Don't blindly hold on to what we should be daring to let go

Contact

In this era where technology is advanced. People are connected to one another through many social medias and chatting applications. It has become so easy to find your friends through technological means.

You can now just dial the number on your phone and there they are on the other side of the line. Group conversations are allowed in applications like whatsapp and there can even be conference call through skype. A more personal video call can also be made through skype and now it's free as long as you have internet connection.

However we tend to rely a lot on those connection now. We don't take so much effort to find all our friends to have a personal chat these days as we can do them online. The quality of our contact with friends have changed.

Is it a good thing though? It's very subjective here. It depends on how you use these means. The quality of personal contact should never be forgotten. You can do both but you can never over rely on technological contact. So use the technology wisely but don't over rely and it's all good

It's not the amount of contact with people that counts, it's the quality of it

Love

Love is a deep, strong and powerful affection towards someone. So how does this strong feeling of attraction appear? It is a feeling moulded through times that 2 people go through together. It is through really knowing a person and spending time with a person that the feeling is developed. Love is not a magical feeling that just appear out of nowhere, it is attraction towards a person's true self.

So does love at first sight exist? Well, that basically means you're falling for a person's physical traits. A person's physical trait changes through time, and being attracted to just physical trait I really wouldn't call that love at all. However, it doesn't mean it takes years to fall in love with someone. Months may be enough depending on how much understanding there is between the relation.

Loving someone doesn't mean your love has to be requited. Unrequited love isn't exactly that rare. Not all of us can be so lucky to fall in love with someone who loves us back. But loving someone doesn't mean you need to be their lover. Being a friend who's always there for them, doing what we can to make them smile that's not too bad. After all, seeing them happy should make you smile.

Another question is would you stop loving someone? My personal opinion is no unless that person changed totally like became another person altogether. The feelings may change and it feels different but their position in your heart remains to be very special. I'm not sure if I'm right or wrong here as I'm merely speaking based on my personal experience but I really think if the reason you fall in love with that person doesn't change you won't stop loving that person.

Now to end this will be the question is loving someone a good thing or bad thing? Love can cause us a lot of trouble. Love can cause us immeasurable pain. However on the flip side it can also give us immeasurable happiness. We just need the right person at the right timing. We won't know when or if it'll even actually come but so long as we don't give up hope there's a chance it will. When it does, you'll realize all the troubles will be worth it.

Love isn't all about being someone's lover

Best Friend

Do you have a best friend? Well, how do you actually define a best friend actually. A best friend isn't someone who would always hang around with you, going everywhere together. A best friend is a friend who would go out of his way to appear whenever you're in trouble, knows the different behaviours of you and somewhat understands you.

So now ask yourself again, do you have a best friend? If you do, lucky you because not everyone have one. In this world where social connection is made easier and easier we can connect and socialize with a lot of people easily. We can have text chats through whatsapp, calls through mobile and apps like viber and there's even video calls with skype. We interact with people and have a lot of friends who we can spend time with but among them not everyone has a best friend.

We all should have a best friend. The one friend who you know you can turn to when you're in trouble and of course be willing to be there for when they're in trouble. Especially in this society where people everywhere are wearing masks. True and sincere friend are really precious to have, not to mention a true and sincere best friend. If you don't have one, try evaluating your sincerity in friendships. If you already do, appreciate it well.

Friends are precious but best friend is priceless

Time

Everyone's life has a time limit. We do not know how much time we have but we know that the time is limited. Time flows in one way so when it flows away we can't go and get it back. That's why time is so precious.

We can't afford to waste time just waiting and waiting for something to happen. We have to go ahead and move things before time runs out. We can't predict how much time we have and that's why every moment we can save is precious.

However, there are some things that we can't speed up. There are still things that we can't do anything but to wait. We can choose not to wait of course but some things may be worth waiting for us. Worth or not will be depend on ourselves of course.

Now, waiting for the something doesn't mean to sit idle and wait. We should prepare and improve ourselves do whether or not what we've been waiting for comes we are prepared. If what we've been waiting for comes then we can be better for it as well.

However precious time is, there are things we want to spend time waiting for

Trust

In this society today filled with lies, acting, gossips and schemes it is hard to even trust anyone. Many have trouble with trusting even their own family members which are supposed to be the ones with the strongest bond with us. Blood is thicker than water, what relation can be stronger than family relation bonded by blood and a lifetime together? Even so, trust is still an issue sometimes within family members.

How can we trust anyone if we can't even trust our family members? The truth is we can't really trust anyone. It's a risk to give our trust to people but sometimes in life there are risks worth taking. Eventually in life I believe we will find people that we will want to give our trust to. If we put our whole heart out and the trust is betrayed we'd feel devastated but instead if we made the right choice putting our trust on the right person, nothing can be more comforting.

How do we know if a person is worth trusting? We don't and we will never know. The first person we have to learn to trust is ourselves. Don't go believing in certain naive thinking of yourself that even when you feel something isn't right you tell yourself maybe you're feeling wrongly. Trust your feelings because instinctively we know if we think we should trust someone. It may not be right but it's the closest you can get and it's a risk you'll have to take.

Trust is a risk, but it may be a risk worth taking