Barrier

It's been long since I've last posted. Ideas will never stop flowing through one's mind so that point is definitely off. I write posts according to the thought flowing through my mind when things happen, change or anything. Things like that will never stop so that point is gone as well. The reason I stopped for so long is because many things that went through my mind has been things I wish not to disclose to public. The year will end soon and a new beginning is coming. Not only will the year be new many things will. Not to mention, even myself will probably change. Might elaborate on next post now lets get on with current post.

People form a barrier on other people. Barriers are formed both intentionally and unintentionally at different times and situations. Some people choose to form barrier to keep distance from negative people for example. This is what known as an intentional barrier. Unintentional barrier meanwhile would be something like maybe people with their ex couples even though it doesn’t apply to everyone. Well, the important thing is the point is understood.

To have barriers forming around you has its good and bad. Good is people won’t be able to harm you or influence you and bad is you can’t really get friends. Well, to have barriers is fine but not to keep it on at all times is very important. Not having a barrier wouldn’t be bad either as long as you keep your own stand and beliefs. To keep distance without forming barrier is possible actually. It simply means to be friends but not hang out together.

Barriers aren’t only for the whole of a person. It can be only working to block your mind from others. There are many who choose to keep their mind within their own barrier not letting anyone see through it. Most people who are like this have a different thinking compared to an average person. It might not be of great thinking but it’s definitely different.

Personally I somehow kind of have a barrier confining my own thoughts and blocking others from knowing. To keep all of the thinking to you isn’t a very nice thing to do. At some point there will be a feeling of loneliness as there’s none who really understands you. Another thing is you’ll feel like letting it out but some things you just don’t want to let people know. That point is where I choose to write diary.

Points where I want to let people know I actually choose to write it out. At many times I am unable to say out what I want to. It may be because of I don’t know how to say or I don’t dare to say. Due to being unable to express self through speech I resort to express myself through writing. It’s not that I couldn’t talk properly or have trouble thinking of what to say but it’s just I don’t dare to speak and also I wouldn’t speak if I’m not sure of what to. That’s what forming my barrier, it’s not that I want to.

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Advices

People always get to a point where they do not know what to do. At these times they often seek for help from people, books or other sources. Actually, anyone can give good advices. The only reason one cannot give advices is the situation cannot be fully understood or the person’s mind is clouded. Actually the advices given by others can easily be thought out by one self. The reason one does not get to do so is because when being in the problem itself, people cannot think properly.

The advices given by others actually may come out as an advice one has given to others before. It’s actually quite normal for that to happen. It’s just because other people have a clear mind while the person in it do not. There are actually many things I have written in this blog which I have forgotten. As I go through my own blog I can see a lot of things I have not done myself. Just as an example I’ll say about the self-confidence point. One of my best points is actually the self-confidence. I’ve written that before, I’ve told myself that before and I’ve told others before but there are times I forget about it. Having no self-confidence I’m left as an ordinary or maybe below average person in certain things.

Another point that cannot be left out is to say is easier than doing. Many advices can be given but how many can be done by the person who says them? There are things that are easier for some to do and harder for some as well. Even though you can do it doesn’t mean others can. It’s not only the ability and skill that affects it but also the mind. Though there are ways to overcome them but for many cases it requires quite an amount of time and also opportunities to do so.

To conclude what I said, at troubled times always try to clear your mind or just seek for help. Refreshing your memories on your past ideas or advices to others may come in handy as well. But no matter how hard things are for you to do there won’t be a ‘can’t’ it’s always a can, only maybe there are other things needed for it to be done. Writing down your thoughts and ideas like what I’m doing now is very good as well. It may help other and it may help you in the future as well.

Your past may teach your present.

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Teaching

Teaching doesn’t only apply on education though. Teaching also includes the teaching of religion, way of life and things like that. There are different styles of teaching by different kinds of people. Some may choose to just make people remember, some may choose to teach by punishment and reward way and some may even choose to tell them their own story or experience. There are other methods of course but the best method is definitely by telling them the logic so that they understand why.

People who do not know about thing will ask why. Reasons are very important for one to decide whether or not to follow, apply or even remembering. Many people do not understand this principle and just keep saying the surface of things like don’t this, don’t that or that’s not right, this is right. They just neglect the very important thing which is ’why?’. That is definitely the most important thing to be told if you want people to follow, apply or remember.

If we go into the education world, many teachers tend to neglect telling student the reasons things happen. Maybe it’s because they themselves don’t know, maybe they don’t bother or maybe they just don’t realize how important it is. I do not know the reason but I can assure you by telling the reasons the students will do better. There are good teachers who do not neglect this fact of course and the difference of the effectiveness of their lessons can clearly be seen.

On the religions, I do not wish to touch as religions are very sensitive issues and I fear I might offend someone or cause small commotions. Therefore, I will go straight to the teaching of life. For parents, many parents do not know that by punishing and scolding the children will not change. In fact, many children tend to be rebellious. They’ll just do the opposite of what you tell them to do. How many children are rebellious towards their parents I do not know but I can definitely say I am a rebellious person.

There’s just no use telling me things without reason. I’ll just take it as crap if the reason is untold. What I require is a logic that I understand and can accept. The logic of what I’m saying is people remember the reasons or logic better. Humans are intellectual beings. We can use the logics and reasons to create things. Pure remembering and applying is not good enough. The situation differs every time and therefore there will be changes required but with the same logic or reason. That is why we have to answer the ‘why?’ every time.

Don’t just tell people how, tell them why.

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Yu