Codes & Principles

Every person should have their own principles to follow. Codes that they abide to under most circumstances. Having a code to live by keeps up in check so we know we don't stray too far from our way of life. There's no one code that everyone should follow. Everyone has their own code to follow in different situations. We all have our individual principles that defines us.

A person's code can be so many things. It could be something simple but meaningful like family first where the priority is always on the good of your family. It could also be things like always try not to lie or never talk bad about a person behind their back. always putting full effort at work, always make the person you love smile, never make the person you love cry of sadness. It could be anything at all but they have to be there to make sure what's important to us remains.

Some of the examples I mentioned are the codes that I follow. I'm a very playful person. I do all kinds of stupid things and play around all day but life isn't all about jokes, we need to keep ourselves in check and these codes are here to assist you, to help you keep yourself in check. Sometimes people may not agree to your principles but if it's what's right for you, stand firm for it as it's part of what defines you.

Our codes keeps our path in check

Humble

There are some people who think they are very capable when they are not totally not understanding the word humble. There are also those who understood the word humble too much that they refuse to accept any compliments at all even when they are actually capable. We must be humble and not show off even if we are capable but at the same time know what abilities we have and perform with it letting people see what we are capable of.

We all have our own level of capability in every different thing. It's one thing to show off what you are capable of but trying to show off when you're not very capable that's where you're searching for trouble. Not one person will like a person like that especially not working with that person. Always know where you stand and don't jump over your own platform until you've stood well enough on it.

Now even when we are very capable, it's not right to boast about it. Just perform to your capability and people will naturally see and acknowledge it. But sometimes being a silent worker people may not realize your presence, much less what you have done. We have to make our presence but stay humble yet performing 101% that's where are the best of ourselves and people will also see the best of us.

When we perform well we produce results. So long as our presence is seen our efforts will be clear and people will know what we can do. Jokingly boasting is fine but of course moderation is needed. Talking big will only make people question our abilities and if results don't match with what we say it will only backfire. Even if the results to tally with what boastings people won't like it when we talk big.

Show your abilities through results, not big talks.

Inspiration

We need inspiration to figure out what directions we can take on things that we do. When we're lost we often seek inspiration that can inspire us towards our next step. We search high and low, far and wide for something that can inspire us in any way but inspirations are all around us. Sometimes we try too hard to look and missed out on the little things around us. It's when we stop trying so hard to look for them, they appear right before us.

Inspiration can come from anywhere, anyone or anything. You may be surprised to know that our actions or words may have already become an inspiration to people in one way or another. You may feel that what you do means nothing to people and what you say is meaningless words but you never know what idea they could actually trigger. Also, sometimes you take a bold move you think might be selfish but it could actually become an inspiration since it's an uncommon move.

I have a dream to inspire people to succeed, to move towards the path they wish to. I'm nowhere near achieving that dream. I'm not even someone people would look up to in any way yet. I have no example significant enough to show yet, but I believe one day I could. But whatever it is, it's important that we don't inspire people wrongly. Believe in what you do because sometimes even if it doesn't yield too much results as it is, it may turn out to inspire others can create a strong effect long term.

Sometimes we look too hard for inspirations when they're actually just lying around us

Nice

You don't try to be nice if you're genuinely nice, ng nice to people is a commonly taught value. Everyone wants to be treated nice and that's why we want people to treat others nice so when it goes round back to us we may get treated nice. However, what would actually constitute to being nice? Always saying good things and complimenting people, is that being nice if it's not sincere comments? How about telling you some harsh truths that may hurt you a bit but for your good?

One makes you happy but keeps you in denial, one hits your mood down but is trying to put you on the right path. Many people live in denial and don't realize the first type of people are in that category, helping them stay in denial. More and more people avoid telling the truth in people's face, not because they fear they'd hurt that person but they fear it would cost them to be disliked by others.

Personally I've went through being hated for being too honestly harsh on people. I was a bit extreme at one point of time and I realized the truth blows on people could be softer. That's why I tried to phrase things in a less harsh way but I still have no hesitation saying the truth of things. What I think should be the right way things should be, the problems I see in people and the things I feel is not right I will just let it out and that I believe has made a number of people dislike me. For me it's a price worth paying.

Of course, there's also the kind of nice where we're always there to help people. It's true that sometimes people do take advantage of how nice we are and always use us for their convenience but does it really matter? In the first place, being nice to being is just because we feel obliged to assist people for their convenience so in the end even if their intention is to use us we're achieving our objective when we help them isn't it? That is to be genuinely nice, when we're not considering what we get from what we do but we're considering what good could our actions do to people.

Genuinely nice people don't try to be nice, they be genuine and they'll naturally be nice.

Care

Generally speaking, everyone have people that they care about and people who care about them. There could be minor exceptions here and there but that's not the point of discussion so I shall not talk about that. However, the people we care about and the people who care about us may not coincide with each other. That makes people forget that there are many who actually cares about them.

Many people and blinded with their focus on those that they care about. These people who they think they have sacrificed for and when they don't get the care in return from these people, they assume none cares about them. Think properly, is it really that none cares or are you closing off those who actually do care. It may not be the people who you want care most from but why not appreciate what is given to you instead of fretting on what's not.

Do we really care if people cares about us or do we care who actually cares about us? People who you don't really talk to anymore, would you assume they don't care? There are some that still cares but don't think you'd fancy talking to them. Think of people who once cared a lot about you, chances are they still do because someone who meant a lot in a part of your life will always remain special in a way.

Lastly, when you care about someone don't expect them to care for you in return. You don't care for them so they'd care for you, you care for them cause they mean something to you. Whether it's friendship, love, companion, family or anything, they mean something. To care is to be selfishly selfless. To fulfill your selfish desire of being selfless to these people. That's what care is, not to search for care in return. Eventually someone will care about you if you're doing good. Everyone has qualities that attract people in a way.

To care is to be selfishly selfless.

Unfair

Some people are born rich, some born poor, some die young, some die old. Basically our lives isn't a fair thing. Some lives die just after being born, heck some even die before being born into this world. It doesn't matter what we do in our life, if we're a good or bad person, the expiry we have in our life isn't affected by that. We have no control at all towards how we're born and how we die.

What we can control is in between, between the beginning and the end. Well technically we can control how we die if we take our own life but let us not take that circumstance into consideration. Let us focus back on the journey of life. The part where we can and is supposed to control. That's the only fair part of our lives, the part where we get to choose our path of life. The part that we have a choice.

Of course, the choice imposed upon us may not be the choice that we like. All the choices laid out before us may all be choices that we wish not to take, but we do have a choice and that's the privilege we all share. We just have to do what we can to make things better if things don't start out well for us. It may be easier for some and harder for another, that's life and life is unfair. We have just have to accept that it's that way.

So long as we live, we are still in control and we can try to improve our situation. The chances will only disappear if we choose to give up or if our time limit arrives. It's true that the time limit is unfair and the limit for us may be short but exactly because of that we should work the best of the time we have to make our life mean something. Those who have absurdly short expiry couldn't do anything and we couldn't do anything for them as well. Life is unfair that way, suck it up and move on. For those who have time, think of people who don't get this time privilege you get, appreciate and use it well.

Life is unfair, so just suck it up and make the best of yours

Idealistic

Many books, articles, speakers tells us to be idealistic and dare to dream. They tell us to chase after our dream instead of living a life doing what we don't like to do. It teaches us to have an idealistic thinking and believing things can happen if we try.

The society on the other hand teaches us to be realistic. Follow the rules set, study, get a job with good pay and you'll live a comfortable life. So should we be idealistic or realistic then? There's no definite answer to that. It's a choice you have to take.

Now, one thing you must understand is being idealistic is equivalent to taking a risk. There's no guarantee that your idealistic thinking can work out. Also, you have to be prepared for it not to turn out as you planned it would.

With so much uncertainty why do we want to take the idealistic path then? Because we get a chance to create the life that we want to. It's true that we might fail but if we don't try how can we be certain. Don't you think it's worth taking the chance if we might be able to live our life doing what we love?

Being idealistic is a risk we may want to take